BDSM in Romance

SPECIAL!  VALUED AT OVER $350 – OFFERING THIS CLASS AT A DISCOUNT RATE!  SEE BELOW!

Kink and bondage are highly popular, marketable stories.  Many folks think that once a book is written the author’s job is done. Not so. As any seasoned author knows, once we finish writing, we have edits, cover art choices, more edits, and of course the hype. Marketing, promotions. PR Hell as it is known in some circles. That’s the toughest part of any author’s job IMO and will make or break any author dumb enough to rely solely on the publisher. Our job as authors is a business and needs to be treated like such, even if we DO get to have a little more fun than any corporate schmo.

So, in order of author responsibilities after we’ve written the novel of course:

1. Establish the Brand (I’m Sascha Illyvich, paranormal erotica/BDSM romance author)
2. Maintain the Brand (Primarily through PR, I write about wolves, fae, vampires, but you’ll never see me write a western!)
3. Grow the Brand (I write paranormal romances, which puts me in with the anime crowd who likes dark fantasy, the BDSM crowd because my characters engage in mental dominance AND the romance crowd because my stories have a HEA!)

This workshop will focus on Number 3: Grow the Brand. What authors often fail to realize is that in including different elements like spanking or light bondage that they are writing for their normal audiences but with a little more effort could target not just the fringe readers; those who are closeted about their darker desires, but those who are a little open with their darker desires.

What we’ll cover:
• Definition of BDSM in all forms
• SSC vx. RACK
• Explanation of the BDSM symbol
• Mentality of the various players (there’s truly only three but variants are fun!)
• Definition of a Scene
• Structure of a Scene (music, equipment, etc)
• Basics on toys and reasons we use them (hint, it’s for our fun!)
• Sub and Dom/me Space
• The Club Scene (along with a story about real estate and my ego beating lol!)
• Role play
• Definition of Fetish
• Basic types of fetishes while debunking some of the more common fetish myths.
• Fakers – Those who claim to be everything to all people!
• ABUSE defined – crossing the line between BDSM and Abuse
• Where to go to ask questions and not feel embarrassed
• How all of this relates to romance writing
And of course, resources galore!

What this workshop will NOT cover:
Toy technique – my technique with a singletail is different than my Mom’s (yes, I said MY MOM :P and varies from others, etc)
How to pick up so and so – this is not a dating workshop.
Darker fetishes – Most of you are probably afraid of those. Example: I like knives and blood play. You probably do not. Though we WILL cover the mindset behind those darker fetishes as it is important to remember when researching fetishes. There is a REASON I was trained to love blood play which we will cover from several different perspectives.
The obvious and why they are obvious – Publishers do NOT like Scat, necrophilia as defined as humans bopping dead bodies, rape (though again, mindset and differences in scenes will be covered) and bestiality (as defined by you and my dog, eww!) Yes those are fetishes for some and even I don’t understand why the hell…we’ll leave it.

I have been writing and playing in this genre for thirteen years, worked two large BDSM events in Houston with Houston People Exchanging Power, been actively involved on mailing list discussions, read a few books, met and spent time with Jay Wiseman (Author of SM 101: A Realistic Introduction) I was also a columnist at D/s World for their online E-zine. I wrote for the websites MISS and CMS monthly. Oh, and as I mentioned before, my Mom is a Lifestyle Domme – meaning when she realized that she enjoyed kinky sex, she sought out knowledge and became who she is today. My previous workshop, Writing from the Male POV and creating better heroes was a success both at Coffee Time Romance and at Collette Thomas’s Erotic Workshop yahoo group.

For those wondering about Lifestyle credentials, I can back that up.  I have had submissives, been a submissive myself and have been vetted by some of the finest people in the Scene.

My teaching style is a little light, a little fun and sometimes blunt and honest. That bluntness may be a turnoff to some, but I picked up the technique from listening to people like Larry Winget. Or Anthony Robbins who is not blunt but doesn’t make excuses either. Some of the things I say may offend you. That’s okay, you’re entitled to your opinion and a healthy dose of banter may help us both to learn.

A note about wording: I have a very definitive style as a technical writer and sometimes, my language may not seem clear to everyone. If that is the case to you, feel free to ask me for further clarification. As you are learning about BDSM in Romance, I am learning to be a better teacher.

Much of the BDSM lifestyle is subjective, meaning there are variants on certain definitions, roles, techniques, etc. There is a general consensus which is what I’ll be using when I refer to a submissive, slave or Dom/me. I will do my best to tie the BDSM lessons to popular romance novels we’ve read, my own work or references that make it easier to digest and remember.

Next course:  June 11-15 on my private loop
Cost:  $50 via (down from $75!)paypal to stpbigbangbaby@yahoo.com
Put BDSM CLASS JUNE in the Payment Info space

Published on July 21, 2010 at 8:12 pm  Comments (17)  

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  1. Sooooo where do I sign up?

    • paypal $40 to stpbigbangbaby at yahoo dot com
      I’ll send invites next week :)

  2. Are you planning to teach this workshop again anytime soon? Would love to take it.

    • Yes I would love to teach it again. Maybe Mid November I’ll take a week and do it, or first of December. It depends:)

  3. Hi Sascha
    I plan to do your male POV class and see from your promo trailer that you’re not offering this workshop at this time.
    Are you likely to be doing this soon?
    If not, is it possible to purchase the transcripts from your last workshop?
    I’m especially interested in Bondage, specifially Japanese style and BDSM in an m/m relationship in all its different forms.
    many thanks
    Alison

    • I will be doing bdsm in romance again though I don’t cover technique I do cover structure. We can discuss some particulars during my male pov course :)

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  6. I”m In! as soon as I get paid this Wed.!

  7. It’s always wonderful to see authors doing their research and helping to educate each other especially in the highly misunderstood world of BDSM.

    • I rather pride myself on this class and how in depth we go :) Feel free to share this info with your writers.

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  10. Will you be holding the class in November? Please email me if you are planning one. Thanks. Solera

  11. Hi. My sister recommended that I check out your website for writing workshops. She has taken a class and very much enjoyed it.

    I am writing an erotic romance about a Dominant who meets a woman through crazy circumstances and helps her find her submissive nature. And no, not 50 shades rehashed. lol. The problem is trying to write in a Dominant’s POV. The submissive POV, I have no trouble with; but those Doms are a complicated bunch and I fear mucking it up.

    Anyway, my sister said you have a workshop on this and I would be very interested in taking it. May I ask if you’ll be offering it again soon?

    I would greatly appreciate any help and look forward to taking one of your workshops in the future. Loved some of the lessons my sister sent me. Very informative (and funny). Thanks so much.

    • Valerie,

      I’m glad your sister said such kind things. Yes, I’m going to be teaching BDSM in Romance again soon, not sure where yet. I’d have to look online at my calendar. Once I figure out how to link that to Word Press it’ll be up and you’ll see upcoming events. I think December and possibly for Savvy Authors but I’d have to check. You should email me at stpbigbangbaby@yahoo.com and I can discuss further with you to help.

      Thanks again :)


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